Insight from my morning study:
When you have a doubt, instead of assuming an answer, go look for the facts.
For every fact there is an infinity of hypotheses. ~ Robert M. Pirsig
Stop wasting time making assumptions about what other people are thinking, doing or feeling. Go ask for clarification.
Oftentimes, the assumptions you make are false and go against you.
For instance, have you ever been told “no” from someone else without much of an explanation? Human nature is to immediately start thinking of what it is you did that could possibly make the other person say “no” to you, when in fact the other person could have said “no” for a number of other reasons that have nothing to do with you. If you take the assumption you made up as a fact, it could very well ruin your day and/or your relationship with that person.
Why do we make assumptions rather than ask for clarification?
Simple: our fear of rejection. We’d rather reject ourselves than have someone else reject us.
But, when the actual facts are in hand you can make decisions and take actions on what is real rather than what you are making up.
Replacing your assumptions with the facts will improve your communication, your relationships and your overall quality of life.
When in doubt, go and check it out.